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Maybe some nation/s may allow polygamous civil marriage and many morally accept polygamy, but it’s not God’s Will. I will be giving some teachings with scriptures, as this is even forgotten by some Born Again Christians. Holy Spirit is going to explain this in a very plain way, and I trust that there are not any who read this report that will be offended.

LET ME FIRST MAKE THIS CLEAR

If a man has multiple wives and becomes a Christian, he cannot and should not divorce one of his wife. Suppose one of the wives that he thinks to divorce has children, how do they provide for themselves? The situation is often very complicated. There is rarely a simple solution. So in this kind of complicated cases, God accepts this family, but they MAY have hardships in life more than the normal One Man One Woman relationships, as any marriage has some strains. Similarly, if a couple were non-Christians and one of them becomes a believer, the believer cannot divorce the unbelieving spouse because God has accepted that kind of arrangement.

(1) In the beginning God created Man & separated the female from the Male with the purpose that they would marry and the two would become one flesh. So the Lord made woman from the side of man and then Adam says in Genesis 2:23, “This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.” And here’s this absolutely key verse that both Jesus and Paul quote: “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and HOLD FAST TO HIS WIFE, and they shall become ONE FLESH” (Genesis 2:24). That verse is cited by Jesus and Paul as decisive in the meaning of marriage today. And the meaning focuses especially on this leaving parents and cleaving to ONE WIFE and BECOMING ONE FLESH with her. That one flesh reality is profoundly compromised by polygamy.

(2) When Jesus dealt with divorce and showed how the Pharisees were getting divorces when they shouldn’t — even though it was permitted in the Old Testament — he showed us in his response a way to understand why polygamy was also permitted and yet is now forbidden. Here is what he said: “Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” And they said, “Why then did Moses command one to give a certificate of divorce and to send her away?” And we could imagine them also saying, “Why then did he permit polygamy?” if that were the issue. Jesus said to them, “Because of your HARDNESS OF HEART Moses allowed you to divorce your wives, but FROM THE BEGINNING IT WAS NOT SO” (Matthew 19:4–8).

So the reason Jesus did not any longer permit what had been permitted is because he chalked it up in the Old Testament to tolerance of the expressions of the hardness of the heart. The reason Jesus didn’t address polygamy the same way he addressed divorce was that in his day the Jewish culture had basically already given it up. It just wasn’t an issue. People weren’t coming to him with multiple wives and saying, “Is this okay?” That would have been nice for us today or for certain cultures if he had, but he didn’t. So the point there was there is a way to understand the tolerance of an act in the Old Testament which now is forbidden.

(3) You can see already in Genesis 4 that polygamy was, indeed, owing to the growing of the hardness of the heart after the fall of Adam and Eve. I think that is exactly what Moses wants us to see in the way he describes Lamech, the seventh generation from Adam. Here is what it says in Genesis 4:19: “Lamech took two wives,” — the first time it has ever happened — “Lamech said to his wives: ‘Ada and Zillah, hear my voice; you wives of Lamech, listen to what I say: I have killed a man for wounding me, a young man for striking me. If Cain’s revenge is sevenfold, then Lamech’s is seventy-seven fold” (Genesis 4:23–24). Look at the hardness of his evil heart— and it comes right after saying he took two wives, unlike the others. So things are getting so bad, people are now multiplying wives.

(4) Paul’s description of marriage as a picture of Christ and the church is seriously compromised by polygamy. When Paul opens this truth, namely Genesis 2:24, he describes it as a mystery. Now a mystery in Paul’s language was something that was partly revealed in the Old Testament, but now has become clear. And he says, “‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and HOLD FAST TO HIS WIFE, and the two should become one flesh.’ This mystery is profound, and I am saying it refers to Christ and the church” (Ephesians 5:31–32). The most basic and significant meaning of marriage in the New Testament is that a husband and a wife represent ONE LORD AND ONE CHURCH. Since this is now more clearly revealed than ever, it is more important than ever to renounce polygamy and hold fast to the original intention of marriage AS ONE MAN, ONE WOMAN — ONE LORD, ONE CHURCH — AS LONG AS THEY BOTH SHALL LIVE.

(5) It is required of elders that they be the husband of ONE WIFE (1 Timothy 3:2). Now probably that doesn’t refer to polygamy, because in 1 Timothy 5:9 the same phrase is used to describe the widows who need to qualify for the care of the church. They are supposed to be wives of one husband, and there is no evidence that multiple husbands, was a problem. And, therefore, “wife of one husband” or “husband of one wife” is probably not directly addressed to the issue of polygamy, but rather, it probably was addressed to be faithful to your spouse and don’t be divorced from you spouse. But here is the point: Regarding polygamy, Paul never would have used those words without qualification if polygamy were being permitted in the church and among the leaders of the church. He just never would have been able to use that language without some qualification.

(6) The Bible does seem to show the likelihood that with more than one wife there is almost inevitable favoritism of the one over the other as in the case of Jacob’s preference for Rachel over Leah. In a sense this is the flip-side warning of saying that the husband and his wife are one flesh. A husband cannot be all that he should be in one-flesh union with his wife if he must divide his affections among several women. That is certainly not the way Christ treats the church. He does not divide his affections among several different wives.

(7) There is also a mystery about a spirit mate relationship between one husband and one wife. One of the very important teachings Holy Spirit taught me about was about a spirit mate relationship between one husband and one wife (I will explain this in another teaching).

(8) HOLY SPIRIT: “Though in Old Testament times there were some of Our Father’s Chosen People who had more than one wife, what is Our Father’s plan for the make up of a marriage relationship?”‘

ME: Our Father’s plan is that one man and one woman make up a marriage relationship. Jesus upheld the viewpoint when He had a discussion with some who asked Him about a woman who had married seven brothers (see Matthew 22:23-33). She married one of the brothers, and then she became a widow. Each time she became a widow she married another one of the brothers until she was widowed seven times. When asked which of the brothers would be the husband of the woman in Heaven, He did not give a direct answer but stated that the relationship in Heaven would be a higher relationship than husband and wife on Planet Earth. Jesus supported the idea of one man and one woman in a marriage relationship in the answer He gave.

HOLY SPIRIT: The plan of Our Father is that there be one man and one woman, one husband and one wife, in the marriage relationship. Our Father will follow His plan in the marriage between Christ Your Lord and His Church. Christ Your Lord will be the one bridegroom, and His Church will be the one bride.

(9) In preparation for this report Holy Spirit led me to the following Scriptures.

Deuteronomy 21:15-16 – There are two ways that a man can have two wives. One is to be a widower and remarry. The other is to be a polygamist. Though Our Father has always intended that monogamy be followed. He did give instructions that would be guidelines for when a man had more than one wife. In this verse the man loved one wife and hated his other wife. Since hate always has negative actions to it, the man to some extent abused the wife he hated. Since the wife he hated had given him his firstborn son, that son was to receive the double portion blessing for the firstborn son. The man hated his wife so much that he wanted to have the double portion blessing given to a son from the wife whom he loved. Note that Our Father did not approve of the hatred and abuse, as He did not let this change the plan that He had for families. Our Father recognized the spousal hate and abuse, but He did not approve of it.

Genesis 1:27-28, 2:21-24 – In these verses I (HS) had it stated how Our Father structured the first family for Planet Earth- Our Father created a man and a woman who had the capability of reproducing children. The model of this first family Our Father created was one man, one woman, living in a marriage relationship, reproducing children. Your sociologist named this plan as monogamy.

(10) One of the Ten Commandments that Our Father gave to Patriarch Moses was for the purpose of keeping this basic family unit functioning on Planet Earth. Deuteronomy 5:18 – You shall not commit adultery. For you humans who are living in the present time of history on Planet Earth, it should be stated that adultery is any sexual relationship other than that of one man and one woman in a marriage relationship. Even some of the Old Testament kings and men took more than one wife (polygamy) and had concubines, but this did not change Our Father’s plan for the structure of a family. It should also be noted that pre-marital sex, extra-marital affairs, and homosexuality are not included by Our Father in His plan for this basic family unit.

(11) When King David was anointed with holy oil he also let Holy Spirit begin to empower his inner life. But, even though King David turned out to be a good king, there were some imperfections and sins in his life. For example, he disobeyed the Ten Commandments by having more than one wife. He committed more adultery by fathering a child from a woman who was not his wife at the time. He even had the husband of this woman killed by having his commanding officer place him in the heat of the battle so that the man was killed. King David confessed and repented of these sins (see Psalm 51). But, these sins had an effect. First of all, King David ended up with a dysfunctional family. One of his sons raped a sister (see 2 Samuel 13:11-14). One of his sons committed treason by starting a rebellion against, King David (see 2 Samuel 15:1-12). Even though King David did these sins, Our Father led King David to begin plans and secure the resources for building a Temple where the Hebrew people could worship Our Father.

(12) Holy Spirit sheds more light on this subject:

  • Our Father has a lot of compassion for the problems that some married couples are having.
  • Our Father has a lot of compassion for abused wives and abused husbands.
  • Our Father has a lot of compassion for couples that divorce.
  • Our Father has a lot of compassion for divorced people that marry again but not their previous mate.
  • Our Father has a lot of compassion for a man and woman who are only enduring each other in a marriage relationship because they feel it is a sin to get a divorce.
  • Our Father even had a lot of compassion for the patriarchs in Old Testament times that had more than one wife and even some of them had concubines.

Though Our Father has a lot of compassion for married couples who do not seem to be able to live together in peace and happiness, Our Father has not changed His mind about His plan for marriage. As you know, Our Father’s plan is that one man and one woman leave the home of their childhood, become married as husband and wife, and remain married forever.


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